Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh
Genesis 2: 24, New King James Translation
If there is one thing that I am very familiar with, it's the breakup of marriages and families due to the following of the flesh instead of the spirit which brought them together in the first place. My own father distanced himself from his family for the pleasure of following his fleshly desires. I know a man in my gym rat community who continues in his pursuit of his fleshly desires despite the fact that he has a wife at home. What is it about marriage that makes some people desire to seek the flesh of someone they are not joined to? That's right, because when we take that vow to enter into a marriage relationship, we agree that we will indeed become one flesh with that person whom we are marrying. In fact, the words "One flesh" have become deeply ingrained into our wedding vows for quite some time, for good reason. For they serve as a reminder of just what it is that God has intended for His children. This isn't just a religious issue, but speaks to who we are within the love of the Father Who created us in His likeness {Genesis 1:27}. Unfortunately, many have come to see marriage as a disposable relationship. If we find out down the road that we made a mistake in our decision to marry, we can simply abolish that union in the stroke of a pen. But does divorce also dissolve the truth that we are one flesh with the person we married? Some might argue that it does, that divorce is the final act. But how does God view divorce? Jesus was firm on this, that "Whoever should be dismissing his wife and should be marrying another, is committing adultery, and he who marries her who has been dismissed, is committing adultery." These are the words spoken by Jesus Himself. If anyone wonders how it is that God views divorce, simply look at the words spoken by the Son. However, over time man has watered down how God sees divorce until it has become almost a right to dismiss a husband or wife for the simplest of reasons. More often than not, as in the case of my own father, it is our own desires for the flesh which lead us into down that dark road.
Jesus has spoken to those who questioned Him about the morals of divorce that, "Moses, in view of your hardheartedness, permits you to dismiss your wives. Yet from the beginning it has not come to be thus" {Mathews Account 19:8}. So it is that it is NOT God Who has spoken that dismissing a husband or wife is tolerated, but because of the hardness of the hearts of man. This is the result of our following the flesh and not the spirit. When I speak of the consequences on families brought about by divorce, I know what I'm talking about! It is because of the actions of my father that I grew up vowing not to be like that man. Have I made mistakes, yes. Have I lived the life which my own father did, no. But one thing which I do have which my dad lacked is knowing the truth of who I am in the Lord. I'm not guided by the flesh, but by the spirit of the Father in Whom I dwell. But how is it that we can explain the alarming rate of divorce among Christian believers? The same cause applies in this case, those who follow the flesh and not the desires of the Father. Some time ago, I asked a dear friend of mine, who has been married to his wife for over fifty years, how was he able to endure the years without considering divorce? His response brought joy to my heart, in his mind, divorce "Was out of the question," Amen! I trust this man to be following the spirit and not the flesh. That he indeed cherishes that he shares one flesh with his wife. Unfortunately, this is not the predominant attitude among marriage relationships today (2.4 divorces per 1,000 people). Again, I would not base this upon a lack of commitment, but on not knowing who we are within the love of the Father. We only need to seek the words spoken by Jesus to determine that. For Jesus has spoken that we live within the love of the Father {Johns Account 14:20}. Jesus in the Father, we in Him and He within us. That's how this works. That is how we can proclaim one flesh with our partner. This becomes more difficult when one follows their own flesh and not the one flesh of what the Father has brought together.
Husbands, be loving your wives according as Christ also loves the ecclesia, and gives Himself up for it's sake
Paul to the Ephesians 5: 25, Concordant New Testament Translation
~Scott~




