We all talk a different language, talking in defense
The Living Years ~ Mike and the Mechanics (1988)
I've come to realize over the years that there are those of us who are so very good at talking and listening to others. In my time I've known more than a few. I was reminded of this the other day while in a discussion with a gym friend. The discussion was in danger of becoming more of a disagreement when I realized that what my friend needed was someone to listen and not to speak. Realizing this, I introduced him to another friend whom I know has a heart for listening to people. To my knowledge, their conversation soon flourished as a friend who needed that someone to listen found just that. Now, I could have simply turned on my listening ears myself, but my friend was in a better place at that moment to listen to another. I mention this situation because all too often we might find ourselves in the company of someone who doesn't need a speech, but simply someone to listen. I perceived that in my friend the other day. So, instead of escalating a conversation, I chose to connect him with someone I know would be more than glad to listen to him. I have a dear friend whom I have known for some time, a retired pastor, who has been one of the most patient listeners I have ever known. I know that no matter what I am dealing with, that I can talk with him and that he will guide me to what the Father is showing me in that situation. I suggest that this is a unique gift, that gift of listening. My mother had it. She could walk into a room and within minutes she would be talking to a stranger like she had known them for years. The art of listening. The scripture tells us that we should be "Swift to hear, tardy to speak, tardy to anger" {James to the Twelve Tribes 1:19}. If I would have continued in that conversation with my friend, I would not have been following the advice of James. In my mind, he needed to hear what I had to tell him. In reality, what he needed was that ear to hear what he had to say.
I submit that many of the heated discussions which we engage in are a direct result of not having that ear to listen in the moment. I admit that I've been guilty of that a time or two. Sometimes I think I know better, sometimes I think that the Father needs to tell the other person something through me. But what if I were to simply listen? What would God reveal to me through this? Many times, God places us in the presence of others not to convert or evangelize them, but that we would hear what God has for us to hear. There is much to be said of seeking wise council in others. In those who have the ear to listen. The real reason that I introduced my friend to someone who I knew would listen to him is because in that moment I wasn't thinking about listening, but of trying to convince him that I was right and he was wrong. That's not what he needed to hear. I am thankful that I heeded the voice of the Father within me before that conversation got out of hand. There are no winners in an argument. Some might scoff at my speaking to knowing that voice of the Father in me, but this is the truth of my life in Him. Unlike many well meaning Christians, God is always swift to listen to us. We need only that ear to listen to what He is speaking to unto our hearts. The truth is that God has always been an intimate part of us. He created us in His likeness {Genesis 1:27}. Jesus speaks to the truth that our life is lived through Him {Johns Account 14:20}. When we speak to Him, He listens. We can learn a valuable lesson from that.
Now you are aware, my beloved brethren! Yet let every man be swift to hear, tardy to speak, tardy to anger
James to the Twelve Tribes 1: 19, Concordant New Testament
~Scott~






